Monthly Archives: June 2006

Anthony Wolf, author of “Why Can’t You Shut Up?” focuses on our overwhelming need to be right when we disagree. Yet, this behavior damages or destroys relationships with those closest to us.

How many times has a difference of opinion escalated into a nasty argument, dragging in references to past conflicts and grievances? Wolf’s advise is to stay on subject. By focusing on the issue at hand, listening, speaking your mind, and disengaging, you will be able to have a discussion and hopefully a new perspective.

Afterall, he reminds us that successful arguing isn’t about being right as much as feeling all right about the outcome.

At Brown University, I served on the leadership team of the Entrepreneurship Program. Through this program, I had my first taste of what it meant to own my own business. It was a valuable experience that I hope to share with the Asian – Asian American community in the tri-state area through the nonprofit organization I currently work with at the Coalition of Asian Pacific Americans (CAPA).

Background:
The Brown University Entrepreneurship Program was founded in January of 1998 by two Brown undergraduates to provide students with an enriching entrepreneurial education and to nurture the entrepreneurial spirit already alive at Brown by harnessing the expertise of our alumni and faculty communities. The Brown University Entrepreneurship Program is a student-run organization operating under the auspices of the Department of Sociology. Guidance and academic support are provided by the faculty and courses within the department’s undergraduate concentration program in Public and Private Sector Organizations. The Program’s Advisory Board of alumni entrepreneurs and Faculty Board support the Program’s vitality and longevity. We are funded primarily by alumni contributions, corporate sponsors, and a grant from the National Collegiate Inventors and Innovators Alliance.

I just started paddling with the DCH dragon boat racing crew based in Queens, New York.

Background:
It started as a men’s crew in 1993 and has consistently been New York City’s Open Champion. DCH has since expanded to include women, mix, and junior crews and competes in both national and international events for the last 4 years. In June of 2000, the club competed at the infamous Hong Kong Dragon Boat Championship, finishing fifth in the Men’s international race final and sixth in the Mixed international race final. In 2001, DCH took gold in the Open class at the Montreal Dragon Boat Festival, the Competitive B Division Championship Final at the Vancouver Dragon Boat Festival, and the Open 250 meters Minor Final at the IDBF World Championships in Philadelphia as a member of the U.S. National Team.

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My friends know me to be an easy-going guy with a certain lightness of step. Well, now, I’m evidently healthier as a result!

The facts are in, happy people are healthier! Medical science now has evidence to support something most of us have known intuitively for awhile – happiness, including feelings of joy, pleasure, contentment, and our physical health are linked.

Why are happy people more likely to be healthier?
A recently published research study, found that happiness leads to lower levels of stress chemicals in the body. Stress chemicals, like cortisol, are linked to serious health problems like abdominal obesity, Type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and autoimmune disorders. People who report feeling happy more often, throughout the day, have lower levels of stress chemicals in their bodies. So, their risk of developing these diseases is smaller.

What exactly is happiness?
For the participants in the above study, leisure time away from work and engaging in enjoyable activities were most often associated with feelings of happiness. Another study, a review of research studies on happiness from around the world, revealed that having positive family relationships, social networks, support networks and a sense of belonging were key aspects in ensuring people’s happiness.

Social support networks are also a key determinant of health because their effect on our health is estimated to be as important as risk factors like smoking and obesity. This underlines even further the importance of striving to have positive relationships with others in our lives.

hap·pi·ness : a state of well-being and contentment (Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary)

In order to achieve a happier life, there are clear steps we can all take. For example, the Canadian Mental Health Association urges us to focus on improving our mental fitness which “helps us to achieve and sustain a mentally healthy state, just as physical fitness helps us to achieve and sustain a state of good physical health.”

Simple ways to practice mental fitness
Here are some simple ways we can all start to practice mental fitness suggested by the Canadian Mental Health Association:

Daydream – Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a dream location. Breathe slowly and deeply. Whether it’s a beach, a mountaintop, a hushed forest or a favourite room from your past, let the comforting environment wrap you in a sensation of peace and tranquility.

“Collect” positive emotional moments – Make it a point to recall times when you have experienced pleasure, comfort, tenderness, confidence, or other positive emotions.

Learn ways to cope with negative thoughts – Negative thoughts can be insistent and loud. Learn to interrupt them. Don’t try to block them completely (that never works), but don’t let them take over. Try distracting yourself or comforting yourself, if you can’t solve the problem right away.

Do one thing at a time – For example, when you are out for a walk or spending time with friends, turn off your cell phone and stop making that mental “to do” list. Take in all the sights, sounds and smells you encounter.

Exercise – Regular physical activity improves psychological well-being and can reduce depression and anxiety. Joining an exercise group or a gym can also reduce loneliness, since it connects you with a new set of people sharing a common goal. Try your local recreation centre for free or low cost classes. Join – or start – a walking club in your neighbourhood.

Enjoy hobbies – Taking up a hobby brings balance to your life by allowing you to do something you enjoy because you want to do it, free of the pressure of everyday tasks. It also keeps your brain active.

Set personal goals – Goals don’t have to be ambitious. You might decide to finish that book you started three years ago; to take a walk around the block every day; to try a new sport; to call your friends instead of waiting for the phone to ring. Whatever goal you set, reaching it will build confidence and a sense of satisfaction.

Keep a journal (or even talk to the wall!) – Expressing yourself after a stressful day can help you gain perspective, release tension and even boost your body’s resistance to illness.

Share humour – Life often gets too serious, so when you hear or see something that makes you smile or laugh, share it with someone you know. A little humour can go a long way to keeping us mentally fit!

Volunteer – Volunteering is called the “win-win” activity because helping others makes us feel good about ourselves. At the same time, it widens our social network, provides us with new learning experiences and can bring balance to our lives.

Treat yourself well – Find simple pleasures that bring joy to your life. Read a book. Cook yourself a good meal. See a movie. Call a friend or relative you haven’t talked to in ages. Whatever it is, do it just for you. Treating yourself doesn’t have to involve a lot of money or time.

Start today on the road to a healthier and happier life!

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The winners, finalists and applicants for this year’s NII Awards are symbols of three powerful forces that, increasingly, are coming to touch us all. The first is a growing dissatisfaction with our institutions, the second is a renewed spirit of entrepreneurism, and the third is a revolution in communications that is transforming the way we connect, communicate, and collaborate.

A growing dissatisfaction with institutions — from corporations to governments to schools — is inspiring a desire for change that is being felt across all socioeconomic levels, ideological beliefs and diverse backgrounds.

The explosive growth in entrepreneurial activity is being triggered as more individuals confront the financial upheavals and uncertainty caused by consolidations, mergers, and downsizing. It is a movement that is sweeping our country.

The communications revolution is changing how people interact with one another, how organizations engage their constituencies, how we access information. It is also making possible a kind of “collective IQ” where thousands of people can be connected to focus on an issue. The revolution is founded on a new many-to-many, participatory communications medium that offers:

* a capacity for rapid assembly and advocacy
* an ensnaring capability for information collection
* the power of individual publishing and personal expression
* a remarkably effective distribution model

As the three movements converge, they fuel each other and present us with enormous economic, educational and social opportunity that can form the basis for a societal transformation.

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When we find spirituality, or it finds us, the experience feels surreal. This tightrope doesn't have the same thinness as the rope we think of in the circus. A spiritual path is actually on the ground and wider even though it feels like walking on air at times. If you step to one side, you engulf yourself totally in the awe of spirituality. The other, the physical world. And because of its alluring influence, it is easy to understand why we prefer to be there.

There are ways to merge the two experiences. Here are seven techniques to help balance the tightrope:

1. Maintain or start new physical activities. Go running, play tennis, take a walk, or workout.

2. Caring for others. Take care of your family, yourself, pets, and others in your life.

3. Keep financially stable. It is easy to say, "Do what we love and the money will follow." Lean too much on the spiritual side and you stop taking action and the money dries up. This is like wishing to win the lottery without buying a ticket.

4. Spend more time planning and setting goals. Manifesting what we want still requires action and planning.

5. Keep on giving. Spirituality is a gift that needs to flow. It can only continue to do so if people give.

6. Allow room for real people and relationships. Other people ground us and connect us to the physical world. Yet, they must still allow us to evolve.

7. Receiving remuneration is a gift. Accept it as if it came from the universe asking you to continue the flow. When we receive, water continues to flow into our cup and allows our mission to continue its evolution.

Source: Catherine Franz

A friend pointed I used to have a blog entitled Tell Me Your Hero; the basis of which came from Warren Buffett's quote, "If you can tell me who your heroes are, I can tell you how you're going to turn out in life."

Savor the thought for a moment.

Heroes are catalysts for change. They recognize windows of possibilities and have the courage to take on risk–to realize that people are most in danger of not being what they might have been. So go out and answer that question: Who are your heroes?

Whether they be corporate titans or dedicated community leaders, go out and actively seek to be inspired. Take that spirit of innovation and embrace it.

Who knows, you might just end up as someone's hero.

In her book, “If Success is a Game, These Are the Rules”, Cherie Carter-Scott gives several examples of success:

  • financial terms – enough to retire by 50 or to buy a cabin in the woods
  • emotional fulfillment and stability – a harmonious family life
  • glory – athletic accomplishments
  • courage – overcoming a serious illness or tragedy
  • making a difference – change people’s life in a positive way accumulation of knowledge and understanding

Can you come up with 3 ways to measure success for yourself? Remember, there is not a universal standard or “right” definition of success. Define what’s truly important to you. Once you’ve figured out what success means to you, you can realign your life, goals, and relationships around these priorities.

A great way to start the process of defining success is to complete these sentences:

The people I view as successful are….
I feel successful when…..
My symbols of success are….
I will feel like a success when I….

You’ll need to work with your statements until they feel or sound just right. Once you’ve defined success, start taking action to reach it. Set powerful goals and get the support you need to reach them. Expect and learn how to cope with barriers such as fear of change, your “yeah buts” and fear of identity change.

Success is a process that never ends. As you reach the height of one goal you’ll see another mountaintop you’ll want to climb. Along the way, don’t forget to appreciate what you already have and to celebrate each small accomplishment that leads to the grand prize!

Source: Defining Success Your Way! by: Ann Ronan, Ph.D.

Elementary forms of religious life permeate not only traditional but modern societies as well.

Robust, collective beliefs and institutions still shape, move, and enliven us [...] Imagine this: a fellow citizen–a French Jew named Dreyfus–is wrongly accused and convicted of high treason. It is clear to you and others that he has been scrapegoated by military and government officials: his rights have been betrayed. Soon, many rally to his defense. With marches in the street and flags and speeches in the air, your society is stirred and the social ideals of liberty and justice are renewed.

You witness a moral community being forged: sacred rites and beliefs clearly emerge. These, however, are not centred on the totems or gods of yesterday, but on the rights and dignity of the individual. You begin to realize that the elementary forms of religious life permeate not only traditional but modern societies as well. Although its tenets and rites have changed, its basic forms have not. Robust, collective beliefs and institutions still shape, move, and enlighten us, though perhaps not in domains usually associated with religion.

The political, economic, and even scientific realms are infused with the religious. Individual rights, notions of economic fair play, and the spirit of free enquiry, for example, are charged with the sacred. You now have a powerful vocabulary for articulating the normative, communal aspects of modern democratic societies–the vocabulary of religion.

If you have imagined the above, then you have grasped much about the work of Emile Durkheim . 'If religion generated everything that is essential in society, this is because the idea of society is the soul of religion.'

-The Elementary Forms of Religious Life

This is someone I greatly admire:

As a young man, Gilbert du Motier, the Marquis de Lafayette, came to the American colonies to volunteer his services in the Revolutionary War. He gained fame on the battlefield and was instrumental in defeating General Cornwallis at Yorktown, Virginia. He once said that he loved liberty "with the enthusiasm of religion, the rapture of love, and the conviction of geometry." In pursuit of this passion, he dedicated his life to the creation of democracy in America and France. Revered by many in both the New World and the old, La Fayette became known as the Hero of Two Worlds.